Welcome to Week Ten of The Chrysalis Method:
Views From the Top
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After having a breast surgery, you have to follow so many rules, restrictions, limitations, etc. You have to “climb” mountains to get to your final destination. Once you’ve got your full range of motion back, you’re starting to get your strength back, and you’ve returned to your normal routine, then you will start to appreciate your new look even more.
Most women will have some amount of swelling for several months so the “best” view is yet to come but at least at this point, you can start to see what your final outcome is starting to look like. Pat yourself on the back and know that you’ve climbed a long way to get here and the best views are still to come.
“ The best view comes after the hardest climb"
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Weekly Tip:
Chrysalis has several goals for women and one of those is to help women be more confident. After attending several leadership conferences, workshops, and continuing education courses, I learned that one common denominator addressed was a woman’s tendency to say “I’m sorry” even when it wasn’t warranted.
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Some believe this habit has even been linked to damaging self-confidence.
“According to a study conducted by the University of Waterloo Canada, women apologize more frequently than men because they have a lower threshold for what’s considered offensive behavior.”-Celia Fernandez.
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Dr. Phyllis Chesler, psychologist and author of A Politically Incorrect Feminist, stated,
“Even if women don’t really mean it, they will be quick to apologize, back down, or diplomatically moderate their opinion. It’s because we bond very deeply with others and are sometimes afraid of losing that person. There’s also a common fear of being shunned by a clique that we value. To avoid that, we just say ‘I’m sorry,’ even if we aren’t.”
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Be conscious of the words you use and instead of starting a sentence with “Sorry, but…” or ending it with, “I’m sorry,” try using stronger statements to get your point across and don’t add the word, sorry. Use this tip of the week and make a strong effort to acknowledge when you apologize. Is it warranted? Your confidence doesn’t owe anyone an apology.
​Enjoy the progress you've made in getting to this point. Take a minute to look back over where you started and how far you have come. You should be feeling recovered and ready to tackle life again. Congratulations!
Sincerely,
Lauren Simpson, DPT